Friday, April 1, 2011

Learning to Love Martians.

“I love u. Ur an amazing person. U do great things and I’m so proud to b part of ur life.”

That is a random, out-of-the-blue, for-no-particular-reason-at-all text that one of my closest besties, Susan Ehlers, recently sent me.

I am not planning on driving off a cliff and into the Grand Canyon with her anytime soon. However, in that famous friendship movie there’s a line where Thelma says, "Louise, no matter what happens, I'm glad I came with you." And that sounds like something Susan and I would say to each other.

There's a line from another movie (this time “Dumb And Dumber”) that also sounds like something taken verbatim from one of our conversations. It's when Harry says, "Yeah I called her up, she gave me a bunch of crap about me not listening to her, or something, I don't know, I wasn't really paying attention."

Susan and I have had a nine-year friendship with plenty of drama, uncontrollable fits of laughter, secrets, hurt feelings, but mostly just good old-fashioned BFF love.

Now, onto the story, which will take us into the reason I am writing this particular blog in the first place.

Susan’s fiancé, Jason Skinner, just happened to stop by my house that same night she sent the text so I read it out loud to Jason and my husband Billy.
Jason laughed and told Billy, “Don’t expect a text like that from me anytime soon.”
Needless to say, Billy’s feelings were not hurt by Jason’s statement.

Men and women are soooooooooooo different when it comes to relationships.
Duh?! As if you weren’t already aware of that!
So what’s my point? I’m getting to that.
Sometimes, I just like to take the scenic route.

I see a lot wedding invitations say something like, “Today is the day I marry my best friend.”
That’s great for some people. I’m not knocking it, but Billy is not best friend.
And, trust me, he is just tickled to death about that fact.

Does he want to wait in line at Kohls for two hours on Black Friday, shop for two hours and wait in line for another two hours to pay for stuff we didn’t really need in the first place?
Does he want to spend 21 and a half minutes helping me decide which is cuter...the blue sun dress or the pink one?
Does he want to discuss all the reasons why Kevin Federline was the jerk in the relationship and why Britney was the victim?
Most definitely not.

And that’s fine with me, because, I’ve got my Homegirls to be a total chick with.
On the other hand, I also have Billy. And he is so many things that my BFFs aren't.

Billy is my partner-in-life, who has helped me build a home that I love and made a promise to always live with me on a farm that I call, “My Tara.”
Billy is an amazing father. He’s an exceptional parent - whether it's loving the kids or laying down the law.
It’s true that Billy “doesn’t get” certain things about me, but I can’t blame him. I often question my own actions. However, even when he is unsure of “why” I am doing something, he always wants me to succeed and he’s always proud of me.
Billy loves me and, whether it's something on a Honey-Do List or a Daddy Duty, he does things each day to try to make my Universe less overwhelming.

Finally, my point...
Instead of complaining (and that goes for me too, by the way) about our significant others and what they are NOT, let’s celebrate what they ARE.
The inner wiring of men and women are definitely different.
And isn’t that a wonderful thing?
So is it true that Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus? Let’s hope not because I seriously would hate to think that I am sharing my bed with a Martian.
Not to mention, giving birth to two!
(Although, I have to be honest - as I look around the world - I realize that stranger things are happening.) 
And while I wouldn’t describe my husband as my best friend, I can also say (without any hesitation) that none of my best friends would want to be married to me!

Yes, there is so much we don’t understand about the opposite sex.
And, if we had the choice, would we have it any other way?
What fun would that be?

The Man from Mars         
who stole my Heart.

And my BFFL
(Best Friend For Life)
From Venus.


  1. Well not just because I am said BFFL but yayyyyyy that was amazing!!! You killed it and F.Y.I Jason totally thinks I would marry I would get a bigger house and paddock for Four Starzzz Favor :)

  2. I think that you and Susan are going to have a lot of fun with this. Heather your world has really grown into a universe. I have no idea how you can keep the pace with it. My suggestion to you would be to stay on a steady trot!!! If you make a break every now and then don't worry about it. You will just need to qualify and start again. Starting again is what makes the world go around the universe!!! Keep on keeping on.......